Friday, March 7, 2014
Why, do women go back to abusive situations? It's a matter of many things which go on in the woman's mind. She doesn't want to be alone, first of all. She doesn't want to admit that she couldn't be the one to make him happy. She hopes that in some small way she can get through to him and get him to see how good she really is. That he will see this and be ashamed of himself for doing her the way he's doing. She hopes that he will never do it again. Fear of being rejected is one of the hardest things for a woman to accept. She wants to be loved and needed, plus accepted for the person she is. Not only on the outside but on the inside, as a whole person. She doesn't understand that he is just as complicated as she is. It may be that he is very sick emotionally, mentally and physically. She may be trying to be the "mother" figure, in order to complete his needs. It's just too much for her to absorb and work through during these times of adjustment. It has been said that the one who accepts the abuse, is just as sick emotionally as the one giving the abuse. SNAP! Get the message? Get away.........get some help.......stay away......move forward!